Things we desperately wait for

We all have this life in which we are if truth be told, busy doing many things be it working, household chores, family time or sleeping; but together with all these, we all have to spend some time in WAITING.

For what?

Of course, we all wait for our dreams to come true, we wait for all our wishes to be fulfilled, we wait for our kids and ourselves to grow more mature, we wait for getting that leisure time that we can spend without any obligations and so much more….

But then on second thought, I felt we all linger for many more things in our day to day life and then after thinking a bit over it I have jotted down these instances which I feel we all have come across some or other day.

So here are the things which I feel, we desperately wait for:

For the salary - at the end of the month on the salary day, when you have only few bucks left in your account is the time when you actually wait for the salary to be credited which anyways just stays for a while in your account and is spent right from the next moment but still that wait makes you restless; you keep checking your messages even though you know that it has not come;

     For the signal to turn green -  if we are stuck in traffic jam especially in Bangalore we all wait and in fact stare the signal although it shows the timer still we keep on staring it to turn green so that we can move on;

For the food to be served - when we are in a restaurant and order the food, it surely takes 10-15 minutes but still we restlessly wait for it;

For the lift door to open – we reach the workplace and if we are running late we first wait for the lift to come and then after getting inside it we wait to reach our desired floor; and suppose if we are stuck with someone whom we really don’t like, the wait in the lift seems to be endless. We have to wait for some time but that time seems to be passing so slow;

       For our turn in queue in supermarkets – when we are in supermarkets, no matter how long we take time to choose, analyze and then decide what all we want, for billing when we wait in queue we just wait for our turn and don’t bother about anything else and if suddenly card machine does not work we become so irritated;

      For the cash to be dispensed from ATM – we need to take out the money from ATM and we have given all options and then the sound comes that amount is getting processed; we all have our eyes stuck to the cash dispenser for the fresh notes to be dispensed;

        For the online transaction to be successfully placed – you selected an item to purchase, gave your details and then finally paid the money and then you are asked to wait and not do anything and that is when you wait eagerly so that the transaction completes successfully and your order is placed;

    For the bus at the bus stop – for people like me who rely on public transport, we can see from a distance that it is not the desired bus but still in some hope we keep staring the road in wait for the bus that will take us to our destination;

          For status updates from your loved ones – applicable for teenagers especially, when you wait for any status update from your loved one and keep checking the social networking sites;

       For the number of likes and comments – for all the facebook freaks, who after any update be it upload of any photo or any other status, keep checking their facebook to see the number of likes and comments;

And….

Of course all this is what I feel, would request all readers out there to add any points further which you feel that you have been desperately waiting for….

Till then HAPPY WAITING J

Mom's Diary contd....

Kids – the power house of liveliness and epitome of innocence; each and every moment they teach us something. It is great to see them grow in front of our eyes; daily a step is taken by them for improvement- be it is their sense of how much interactive they are or language they speak or taste they love. An interesting part of their growth is watching them talk and their vocabulary development.

The journey from their first word spoken to the complete communication is utter delight; the moment they say Maa and then papa, then slowly calling everyone by the relation they have with them and then slowly all verbs for what they want to do or eat or drink or any particular toy they want or anything. Whatever they say in their accent is pure bliss and music to the ears; they have their own tone and pronunciation. Few words that they speak are quite the exact of what we say, few words sound quite familiar which at least you can make out what it is and few words that they say are totally different having absolutely no relation or logic behind it, it is actually discovered by them from nowhere. These words are so funny and you don’t get them until they explicitly describe for what they want. These words sound so cute that I thought I will just jot them down so that I don’t forget them in future. So friends, here is my son’s explanation of few words:

Tomato – Mamato

Potato – Papato

Buffalo – Babato

Octopus – Aupoka

Water – Oppo

Onion – Peena

Balloon – Bujin

Oats – Auaaww

Good night – Jhinga

Buttermilk – Batenin

Injection - Ingush

Fire – Nam nam and etc etc…

I just love when my son speaks these words; he is so innocent but so confident at the same time that what he is saying is definitely the correct word to describe them.

Hey all mommies out there, please share your kid’s vocabulary; I am sure you all too know such cutely expressed words spoken by your kids, let us all enjoy that tickle and keep a note in blog and thus in memory and get pleasure from the laughter later in future as well. 

Till then, happy motherhood J

RADIO

I don’t drive so I have the privilege to look here and there while in bus or on roads commuting to office and while on my way back home. Out of the many things that we do while travelling (if not driving) is listening to radio. I always see people with their earphones and mobile and they will be listening to radio, while walking, sitting idle in bus, while crossing the road; they will be listening to radio most of the time.

And not just this, those who drive, generally in most of the cases will also switch on the radio and enjoy the music; at home when doing some boring stuff or any household chore, we play the radio and enjoy it till we are done with our work. So, basically radio even though itself a non living thing to be precise but it brings life in our daily lives.

I remember when I was a kid, utility of radio used to be different; it was used for music just for certain particular hours and people could afford it easily and used it for listening to news and commentary. It has proved to be best buddy after books and it removed the boredom from many lives. And gradually radio has evolved so much and now there are so many different channels or frequencies to make a choice from and so many radio jockeys who are really talented, although these RJs are not right in front of us but even being somewhere else, they are so much interactive that it seems that they are right in front and chatting with us. And not just songs, radios are also so much informative and interesting; they give traffic updates, they help us making someone bakra by special requests, they organize different contests and gift so many goodies, they organize interviews not just with movie and television celebs but with real life heroes and other responsible citizens and thus help in sharing so many informative things, they share jokes, they do sports commentary, and so much more. They play different kinds of music at different times in order to suit and meet everyone's choice. And end of the day, you don’t have the guilt of being couch potato because while listening to radio, you do some other task as well unlike watching idiot box when you literally sit and munch on something and just watch tv.

In short, radio reduces the complexities and tensions of life ( at least for few minutes when you hear your favourite song or listening to something that really interests you) and bring back the energy and spark to move on. So, I feel that radio has definitely a very special place in our heart because it brings a splash of music, a dash of laughter, a squeeze of romance, a pinch of awareness, a bit of information and all this with a touch of love.

At the end I would like to thank with all my heart to all the radio frequencies and the lovely RJs, RJs because you guys make our day J                   

Note: Totally understand that you love radio but at least when you are driving two wheeler or crossing road, don’t put on the headphone; you can anyway record or listen later. J

HOW TO STAY POSITIVE?

Now I type this title “HOW TO STAY POSITIVE?” in my best buddy’s GOOGLE  page and I got some 2,74,00,000 answers -  wooooo ; so I guess apart from me there are many else who can tell how to stay positive or the other way round there are many who are in search of answers for this question.

I read a few of those and they were too technical – identify a possible cause; keep a journal; analyze the cause AND I clicked the back button. Like the way time flies, I wanted some sure shot and quick techniques.

When I feel low, I desperately sense the urge to transform my mood and that too by doing something that will refresh me instantly; I guess no one at that point of time when they really feel too low, takes the technical way to stay positive. Those techniques straightway jump to the to-do list for the future for further analysis.

But exactly, if we think on it for a while; we all know answers for both the categories – technical and practical but applying the right technique at right time is the root cause of this whole mess.

So, what exactly we can do to stay positive:

1. Eat something which you really love like Ice cream – it’s the ultimate comfort food unless you are watching your weight. Or pani-puri or some kebab; you of course have a whole world to make a choice from;

2. Listen to your favorite songs; could be the loud one listening to which you feel and imagine that you are taking revenge from the villain of your life; or some soft pace song which can give you peace of mind and heart; 

3.  Dance: you could be a pathetic dancer but how does it matter, you dance for yourself and not for anyone else. Play the tune and dance however you want as if no one is watching; nothing else but watching yourself dance like a ………… will give you a great laugh; (this blank you can fill up depending on your own credibility :-) )

4. Watch Tom and Jerry of course in you tube; its readily available after all; 

5. Just go out and shop; you definitely will be having some item in the back of your mind that you have been planning from long to buy but did not get a chance yet; 

6.  Treat yourself by spending some time all alone doing what you want:  read a book, give your feet some rest by taking a foot bath, head massage etc. You don’t have to go to a parlour, you can do all this by yourself; 

7.  Remember your childhood; see your mark sheets, albums; remembering those good old days will take you to a different world at least for a few minutes and you will realize that life had not been so bad always.

                                               

There are many ways to keep yourself in high spirits, it’s just that you have to know which one you want to pick. Always we have to remember one thing that the life we all live is much better than those of many else. So there is no point in cribbing about your problems, thinking too much about the issues and concerns and thus unnecessarily complicating the life. 

Just chill, everything is fine or if it is not fine, it will be fine. Good or bad, time will pass and one has to move on; you can neither hold on the good things or bad things.

Thoda hass lo, muskura lo, jee lo…. Zindagi itni bhi buri nahi . :-) :-) :-)

YES, I am a working woman.

YES, I am a working woman and by my own choice;

YES, I am a working woman and I might not be the sole breadwinner of a household but yes, I have my own share in bringing up the household;

YES, I am a working woman and of course I still feel the affection for the dependability of bringing a new life to this world;

YES, I am a working woman and I accept the fact to restart afresh and prove myself all over again after I return to my workplace after months of leave;

YES, I am a working woman and I put on make-up and wear ironed clothes and heels but of course that doesn’t reduce my work pressure; I do it because I like it;

YES, I am a working woman and I might have an external support system but I still have a clock running in my mind constantly that monitors all the moves and instances by those external helps;

YES, I am a working woman but I still make sure to enjoy motherhood even in the time crunches and I take pleasure in spending time with my kid as much as any other mother does;

YES, I am a working woman but of course it’s like one more plug-in and not substitute to any of my different other roles that I play from a daughter, a wife, a daughter-in-law and most importantly a mother;

YES, I am a working woman and I carry an attitude of confidence and independence but I am also a loving and caring person;

I am not JUST A WORKING WOMAN. :-)

Ongoing Disaster

JNU and JU – the two universities where WHAT THE HECK IS HAPPENING is the question I guess every sensible Indian is having in his or her mind. From the starting of the week, I think this has been the topic of discussion in Newshour debate by Arnab Goswami where every time in the group of panelists there are those who I guess for purely publicity need are supporting the students who are protesting in favour of Afzal and traitors like him.

Few students like some virus pop ups start saying , in fact shouting to be precise that afzal guru was a martyr; have they gone mad? They shout anything they want, “cheen k lenge azaadi” and all that; if you really don’t feel like to stay in this country, go away. Who is asking you to stay here? And after all these protests you say that its freedom of speech; wow… as well described in that video (link in the end) freedom of speech means freedom to criticize  that is if you don’t like something, you have all rights to share your opinion about it; freedom of speech does not give you any authority to abuse or threaten anyone. Who are you, you think that you will break the nation into pieces when in reality you don’t have the guts to speak up standing alone and not shouting amidst a crowd of equally illiterate people? Get your facts and figures; do your homework properly before taking such a disastrous step.

All these sequence of events: students useless protests; lawyers taking the law in their own hands and beating up students; and now issues for the proposal of raising the tricolor in all central universities. I really feel pity for those who simply shout without actually understanding the sole purpose of such proposals.

For God’s sake don’t mix tricolor with extreme nationalism……….. I mean  Tricolour is the flag of our nation and not some personal property of any political party or religion. Tricolour represents our INDIA and all INDIANS; why is Tricolour being tagged with being extreme nationalism? I don’t think that there is anything wrong with such proposal of flying the tricolor in all central universities; I think this should have been done many years ago, but better late than never, I feel it’s a great move because such an action will remind all of us that India is our country and we all are Indians, it will help us realize and differentiate between the traitors and martyrs. I felt so sad when General Bakshi became emotional saying that he might be standing alone in this battle but he supports to fly high the tricolor but then Arnab Goswami supported him saying that he is not alone and that we all are with him. And then it was really great to see Smriti Irani calling the newshour herself and telling that how much we, the citizens of India are grateful to General Bakshi and other soldiers of the country like him.

At the end, I just want to say that Guys, you represent the youth of this country; you are an integral part in building the nation but this attitude is surely not going to gain you anything in life apart from few photos in front page of newspaper. Do remember this is the generation of social media; You are always being watched for both good and bad reasons; all moves are being scanned; nothing is hidden. 

Be the genuine and sensible lover of your motherland.

INDIA is my country and I am a proud INDIAN.

Youtube link: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=73B9PAx0oJI&feature=youtu.be

Caste Battle

Debates going around in all channels for Rohith’s suicide where panelists are discussing or rather putting the blame on each other and trying to encash votes making this a need based issue as required by them. A team of people just trying to throw the ball in each other’s court; the methodology that has been an integral part of our society where only discussions happen and decisions are seldom taken, the root cause of every single problem;  one party trying to prove themselves right and all others wrong.

Student commits suicide unable to bear the despair and what is happening after that …. Only discussions; we all know who is the culprit but no action has been taken yet. Day by day people are trying to create a virtual reality and then using it as a weapon and hence complicating the issue further. Such incidents have happened in past and will continue to happen in future; one state where one person belonging to one caste has been harassed because of the one’s who belong to power.

What the hell is going on, I really feel like to say “Grow up, be genuine, be sensible.” Poor guy suffered injustice and ended his life, do something now; culprits should be punished. For how many more days and years will castes be given more importance than humanity. Why anything should be based on caste wise favoritism? Student should entirely be judged based on his academics profile, on merit; and then if he needs financial support, he should be given; irrespective of whether he is Brahmin or SC or ST or OBC or whatever.

We cannot close the eyes to the fact that in India caste stands a lot of importance; in every damn form we all need to mention which caste we belong to; why such discrimination? These age old norms definitely need amendment. Why caste should be given any such importance? Be it any field; in schools or colleges or offices or anything else; judgment should be entirely based on capability and quality and not because which caste or place you belong to. And it’s not just me, I think this is what the young India wants.

India is our country and let us all just be Indians.

RIP Rohith.