Back to blogging after a long time; was busy with
festivals, celebrations and sudden family emergencies. Days and months passed
and now the year is going to end in just few more days. New Year will start
with new hopes, aspirations, plans, commitments, friends, foes and so many
other new things. But with these new- the uncertain ones, we will have some old
things as well which will carry forward from the previous year. Carry forward things
will include the best, the good, the not so good and the ugly.
Good and best things could be the presence of a happy
family, close friends, well paid job, possession of assets and property or
anything else. Have we ever thought what this not so good and ugly actually is?
Each of us has our own set of tribulations in life and the presence of these
unwanted tribulations is the thing that makes our life not so pretty. And most of the time these problems are
nothing but human beings who create problems in our life.
These problematic people could be someone at your
workplace you really can’t work with; or some family member you can’t adjust
with; or someone who works for you but does not understand your perspective; or
someone who broke the promise and hurt you; basically it is someone whose presence
irritates you the most; it is someone you don’t like or hate from the bottom of
your heart; it is someone whom as soon as you see, you feel like
grrrrrrrrrrr……..
Presence of such people is disturbing but it is not in
our hands. We can’t just simply shift + delete them from our lives. But what
creates more trouble, the presence of such people in our lives or our inability
to tackle such people? I feel, it is the latter that is the root cause than the
former. After all, we can change what is in our control but not that what is not;
it depends on us how much we can get affected or I should say it depends on us
how much we can allow them to affect us; it depends on us how we mould
ourselves, whether to be as is expected by them or to be as the one of our own
choice.
Putting the blame on others and escaping or
surrendering to the situation is always the easy way but definitely not the
right way. Just surrendering and giving up without trying will not make them realize that they are wrong. Taking the charge and speaking up for what is right is the correct
way and should be the only way. Until and unless we ourselves take the charge
and fight for our rights, nothing can change in our life. Transitioning of the
criticism to constructive or destructive is entirely our preference.
For worst scenario which is totally out of control, saridon and disprin is anyways there :-)
